SOULMATE DREAMS

Why do I keep dreaming about my old flame? Am I missing him or what?

Recurring dreams starring ex-lovers or about a relationship you thought was long over, such as a marriage that ended badly, can be haunting and perplexing.   Just when you think you have buried the relationship and have finally let go, a dream unearths the bones from the burial, resurrects the lover and you may find yourself back in the throws of the passionate love affair you so cherished before. The possible dream scenarios are many, from cuddling in bed to fighting like you always did over next to nothing.   Dreams like these seem to reconcile a deep sense of loss, sort out the bad residual feelings and somehow make right what went wrong.

For a man or a woman who is married to someone else and with children in the next room, a dream of reconciliation with someone from their past may be at best unsettling.   One may naturally wonder if they are secretly so dissatisfied with their present relationship that they are looking for a higher volume of love with someone from their past.   Or, is it that they are in bondage to the dream lover and helplessly subject to their desires?   Most may not consider their dream mate is really their soulmate.

Although not all dream lovers are soul mates or as I prefer to call them Divine Complements, a large number are, pointing to a mysterious soul-to-soul connection that lingers beyond the duration of an ordinary commitment. Divine Complements collaborate and interact in the psychic realms even when a relationship in real life is deemed impossible. The collaboration at the otherworldly dimensions is realized in dreams as the consciousness of one collides with the consciousness of their twin to share intimate details about their lives, such as thoughts, pursuits and desires for reconciliation.   From these dreams one becomes cognoscente that there is a spiritual purpose to the relationship that goes beyond conscious attitudes, personal ideals, promises to others, desires and personal needs.   The purpose is a divine one.

Divine Complements or twin souls are mysteriously linked through a heart bond. A signature exists within an invisible heart matrix, an aspect of the oversoul linking twin souls together through a code of light and harmony. Therefore, twin souls are forever bound at a dimension of spirit in much the same way that we are connected to God.   This bond is of a divine nature and higher order than emotional bonds or psychic connections and represents a sacred and spiritual covenant- a promise that is spirit driven. Called the Stellar Promise, this commitment has origins are before the fall, when both were birth out of a creative miracle of God's intention of comparable partnership.

This signature at the heart has lasted for eons and drives twin souls together to fulfill their life purpose together lifetime after lifetime.   If and when they meet again the spiritual chemistry between them is hopefully enough to ignite their hearts to recognize the deep bond as greater than any romantic ideal.   When all goes as planned twin souls become intimate and commit to a lasting partnership or friendship.  

Too many times however the soul and spirit driven connection is not enough to outweigh the problems associated with conflicting personalities. Twin souls part without having had the opportunity to reconcile the past, such as making up for their mistakes in past lives.   The well laid out promises they made for this incarnation in their soul contract, may fall to irreconcilable differences or a poverty of love.   Falling from grace, they drift apart only to reunite once in a while in the dreamscape to share in the joy of their continued communion at the heart.

Longing and Pining Dreams

The emotional connection we feel for our Divine Complement is a bond of human love.   This love can be preserved, respected and prized or it can be trampled on, buried, abandoned, and even destroyed by our carelessness.   Our human condition is appreciated for its ability to bond deeply with another human being.   The emotional bond with our Divine Complement is doubled in strength because of an even stronger soul and spirit connection, one that is impossible to dissolve completely because soul mates share a room in each other's hearts forever.

Prolonged emotional attachment, however, can cause one to pine for their twin for years.   Some may never be able to let go completely. It seems that they are set adrift on an endless sea of restless waves until the heart gives way to acceptance and forgiveness.   At some point, they should arrive at some level of understanding that even a twin soul relationship can end abruptly and without closure. Those who hang on too long tend to recreate the pain of their loss by revisiting the memories of the relationship over and over again.   They may daydream about the good times and ponder unanswerable questions about what went wrong.   Full of guilt, anger, and grief, they drown their creativity making it hard to fulfill the more independent goals they have for their life including maybe finding someone else.   Nothing in their life seems to have the same magic and they have little passion for what does.   Even more heart wrenching is the evaporation of the dreams and hopes for the future, growing old together and fulfilling their children's future side by side.   Life may go on, finances recover, but the subconscious clings.   Some will dream of reunion even when their soul mate has buried the friendship and danced on its grave. They just can't accept its over. In this case, a dream where they are reunited again may merely be the result of an unconscious desire to reconcile the loss.   It is pure wish fulfillment.   It is as if the dream arrives with a magical elixir to mend the broken heart.   A "reconciling dream" attempts to reconcile the losses even when there is no point to a real reconciliation.   It seems to temporarily satisfy a deep subconscious need for continued love.